HER:Lesbian&Queer LGBTQ Dating

I (Female) have tried 3 separate times to create and keep a profile on the app, but I can never get past a week before my account becomes randomly put on hold/blocked. The site supposedly has strict rules around harsh/hate communication, language, profile pics (must include yourself is one of guidelines), and no “unicorn” hunting. I’m not new to apps and have never had one suspended on any platform, until this hateful one. I hold a verified account and have paid for the premium subscription each of the 3 times I’ve created a profile. There’s not been 1 single conversation with anyone that’s been derogatory, negative or uncomfortable. Even if I’m not a fit for someone, the convo is still polite and respectful. I’ve managed to meet 3 awesome friends in the limited time on there so the potential is there. Multiple connections have seen me lose a profile and create a new one and have laughed in convo about how mismanaged the site is. They’ve admitted that some members will simply report other profiles for being bisexual or poly or enm - those members (most aren’t paying) only want profiles that match exactly them and them alone. This is a well known dynamic of the app and is one that comes up in conversation. Speaking of conversation, as you exchange your desires and such to each other, I mention that I’m bisexual and partnered (married) and am open to multiple things: friends, fwb, and more. I’m open to having some dynamic that involves my husband and I’m open to it being just me on my own. There’s no agenda, no pressure, no closed door if there’s only interest in one side. And again, there’s never been one single negative interaction on the site. And in trying to do my part, I have also proactively reported multiple scam-attempt accounts. All my pics have me in them (multiple solo), which is an app guideline - though over half of all profiles have pictures of nature or animals alone, no person. So either the site allows discrimination toward bisexual/poly/enm humans or it simply allows discrimination toward anyone because despite the verified, paying, guidelines-abiding members, there’s no explanation given at all (signifying NO actual reports are looked into/verified) when an account is suspended. There’s no real customer service and no protection against hostile actions. If you can try to make your connections and move off the app within the first day or two on the app, then maybe you’ll have success. But you’ll also be supporting an app that’s known for repeatedly acting in this way and allowing (and participating in) discriminatory actions. That choice is yours. I would just see through a bulk of the “positive” reviews the company creating accounts to review themselves…and spend your valuable time on another app. It’s annoying enough as it is to create a dating profile, much less when you’re left unprotected in this sort of environment. I have an open ticket with “customer service” as of this morning asking for detailed proof on why my most recent account was suspended despite all the above, and I will update as I receive communication.

This used to be one of my favorite apps. But it’s gone wayyyyy down in quality over the years tho. I miss when it was just a lesbian app, instead of a “queer” app. Too many cis men and straight people for my liking. Too many glitches that take foreverrrr to resolve (if it ever gets resolved) by support and then shamelessly putting all useful parts of it behind a paywall that they keep trying to convince you to pay for. One of the better apps that sadly went down the drain smh

this app is so deaaaad and boring. a whole bunch of dudes on here too (?) yuck. and it’s always glitching or crashing or running out of swipes/can’t see likes. a whole mess if you ask me. bummer

“HER is, and will continue to be, an inclusive & welcoming space for LGBTQ folks. We love lesbians. What we don’t love, or allow, is folks who think trans & non-binary folks are less than. Trans women are women, and if you don’t agree, this isn’t the app for you and we wish you the best.” Is the bogus answer you copy and paste when you can’t get outside of your boxed brain. I NEVER SAID THEY WERE LESS THAN I JUST SAID IT ISNT MY PREFERENCE AND WISH IT WAS A WAY TO FILTER OUT NON CIS WOMEN 😒 so I’m wrong for having a preference?! I think not.

As much as I want to like this app - I can't. There's so many fake profiles, along with SO many scammers. Not only that, but the amount of cis men is ruining it for me + the amount of unicorn hunters 🤢

If you are a Lesbian, hear me clearly. THIS APP IS NOT FOR US! IT is overrun with men and men using pictures of women to lure us. It is NOT SAFE and the support is practically NON-EXISTENT. If you reach out to them, you will never hear back. If something happens to you, no one gets punished. Stay FAR, FAR away from this app full of PREDATORS!!!

in the process of looking for a HER it allowed me to meet my him. beware everybody, this app will turn you straight!!!!

I’ve had HER for awhile now met my current gf on there of 4yrs but now lately the app keeps putting my account on hold ! I’ve verified twice it’s getting sad because how much I did enjoy the app making friends etc it’s just sad how I pay for something almost 30$ ! A month that I can’t use can’t get a response back when I message support bummer

Just re-installed the app and there seems to be a major bug- It literally won’t allow you to upload new photos from your camera roll. I’ve really enjoyed my experience with the app overall, but it’s really frustrating to come back and not be able to update my profile 🙃

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